Note: This is one of the very first posts on my blog that I wanted to share with you all. Enjoy!
I’m back today with another fantastic post! Okay. I have something that I wanted you to do. Raise your hand if you’ve ever been a victim of negative (and/or harmful) peer pressure. And if you haven’t, well…it’s up to you what you want to do. ✨
But, let’s be honest, I’m pretty sure at least 95.99% of people can remember a time where they have been pressured, whether the attempt was successful or not, into doing something that they really didn’t want to do, but did anyway, most likely to fit in.
Now, don’t feel bad if you have, because a lot of people have been through it, including me.
Now, since school will be starting soon, I thought that there couldn’t be a better time to discuss positive ways to handle and deal with negative peer pressure. I mean, we all have gone through it. Why not figure out good ways to handle it?
So, let’s get right into it!
Tip #1: Ask yourself if you really want to do what’s being requested of you. ✨
Let’s just make up a scenario. You’re hanging out with some kids your age, and your “friend” asks you to smoke. Well, the best thing that you can do, before you answer, is ask yourself a question like, “Do I really want to do this?” If your answer is a ‘yes‘, then ask yourself, “Why do I want to do this?” If your answer is “Because I want to fit in,” or “Because I want my “friend(s)” to think that I’m cool,” then, I’ll answer the question for you right now. The answer is no.
Tip #2: Walk away/leave the situation. ✨
If you’re not the type of person that likes confrontation, (which is completely understandable), then do the most simple thing that you could do in this situation. Leave. If you feel as though you might have a hard time saying ‘no‘, then instead of giving in to the negative pressure, just leave the situation. It might be hard, at first, but believe me, you’ll be glad you did.
Tip #3: Use a buddy system. ✨
If you have a true friend(s) who is a positive role model and influence, who has the same stance as you on an issue, then work together to stand up for yourselves, and back each other up. I mean, if you don’t have to do it alone, why not let your bestie back you up?
Tip #4: Give yourself some love. ✨
What’s the point of having friends if all they do is pressure you into things you don’t want to do? Remember that you are worthy of respect and kindness, and that, in the long run, it’s better to be your own, true friend, then have a whole bunch of fake friends who don’t have your best interests at heart.
Tip #5: Find positive role models and/or new friends. ✨
Let’s get real: It’s always nice to have someone to confide in. Whether it be a new friend or a family member, remember to surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Those who have your best interests at heart will make you feel comfortable and appreciated. And that’s what you deserve.
Tip #6: Think about the consequences if you give in. ✨
If you are tempted to give in to the pressure, or have already given in, think of the future consequences if you say ‘yes‘ or continue on the route you are on. Trust me, taking time to think about the road that you should take can help prevent a lot of trouble from taking place. I know. This can be hard. But you’ll be thrilled that you did it, looking back.
Tip #7: Don’t try to use negative peer pressure on others. ✨
I mean, it’s kind of low to complain about getting peer pressured if you are doing it to someone else. Even if it’s subtle, try your best not to put negative pressure on other people. And, if you are doing so, try to apologize and make it right with the person that you’ve been pressuring. After all, it’s important that we love our neighbors as ourselves. (Matthew 22:39 NIV)
Alright, everyone! I hope you enjoyed those 7 Tips on How to Deal with Negative Peer Pressure, and that it will help you during this new year of school!
Comment down below other positive ways to deal with negative peer pressure, as well as your other thoughts on the issue.
You don’t have to take any disrespect, or insensitivity from any “friend” that you have. Just remember, do things, such as the ideas listed, to deal with negative peer pressure in a positive way. You can be serious and get your point across without being violent.
PHave a wonderful, fabulous, and joyful day, beautiful people! ✨