5 Reasons Why You Should Give and Get More Hugs

When’s the last time someone gave you a warm hug? In fact, when’s the last time you’ve given someone else a loving embrace? I don’t know if you’ve heard about this before, but it is recommended that we all get at least 12 hugs a day. That’s right: at least. And since it’s National Hugging Day, I think it’s the perfect time to talk about warm hugs.

So bring it in as I share 5 Reasons Why You Should Give and Get More Hugs. ✨

1. Hugs can make us happier.

When you get a hug from someone that you know cares about you, you can feel the love in their embrace. Hugging releases a chemical in your brain called oxytocin, which is associated with, you guessed it, happiness. But, I don’t blame our brains for getting happier with a hug: they feel so good!

2. They can help create stronger bonds.

Hugging is not just wrapping your arms around someone; hugging is when you communicate through an embrace. The wonderful thing about a hug is that it can say “I love you,” or “I’m thankful for you,” or “Everything is going to be alright,” without the need for words. It’s a simple action that can have a huge influence on how close we are to our hug buddies. So, if you want to make your close bonds even stronger, try hugs. You might be surprised at how much more solid your relationships, and communication skills, become.

3. They show that we care.

When you wrap your arms around someone else, you can occasionally feel how that one embrace made their day even brighter. Knowing that you were able to put a little extra sunshine in someone else’s life can automatically cause a sense of happiness and the accomplishment of showing kindness.

4. Hugging can help us feel secure and at peace.

As we are embraced and we embrace others, we are giving and getting comfort. There’s nothing like a warm cuddle to make you feel safe. Hugs are known to reduce anxiety and stress because of this. In fact, the word hug comes from the Norwegian word “hugga” which literally means to comfort or console. No wonder why hugs are so pleasant!

5. Hugs are good for the body and soul.

Hugs make our hearts go pitter-patter. I’m not joking. Well..maybe a little bit, lol. But really, though; hugs actually boost the heart, lower blood pressure, strengthen our immune systems, relieve pain, and the list goes on! The sense of happiness and security that our bodies and minds obtain from a hug become present in our spirits just the same. Once our souls are happy, our minds and bodies are likely happy, too.

There are so many great things about hugs: they’re healthy for our bodies, help form stronger bonds, make us happier and feel at peace, and they show those who we love that we care. Spread the love by giving hugs to your family and friends. Oh, and on top of that, hug yourself, too!

It can be easy to want to be loved. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, we have to remember that if we want a little love, we need to give a little love, in return. Don’t forget; even if you hug yourself, try to get at least 12 every single day. You will reap the many positive consequences, if you do. So go ahead and hug it out.

Have a happy, healthy, and blessed day, everyone! Bye!✨

My Favorite Posts that I Believe Everyone Can Enjoy

My Favorite Posts that I Believe Everyone Can Enjoy

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Hey everyone! Believe it or not, I’ve written over 125 posts on my blog! What a blessing! And, to be honest, although I think every post is great, some of them stand out to me. I really want to make sure that people who need them are able to read my encouraging words.

Today, I will be sharing some of my favorite posts on my blog, The Joys and Trials of a Christian Teen, that I believe everyone can enjoy!

1 Month, 1 Pic – 2021 Selfies

I really like this post, because I got to see all my selfies together (one pic for each month of 2021 until November) and see the person that I’ve become this year. I think I’m improving in so many ways, but in others, I have stayed exactly the same! Memories are everything!

5 Things to Consider if You’re Holding a Grudge

I think that we all need to sit back and just think sometimes. Holding grudges are not uncommon in places all around the world, and I really wanted to share why I think that doing so is unproductive in more ways then one. These are the type of posts where I step back and think about what I’m writing. It’s important to me that I can connect to what I’m telling my readers.

A Teenager’s Ultimate Guide to Fashion

If you can’t already tell, I absolutely love fashion! Not only do I enjoy it, but I also love seeing other people smile when they feel confident in their outfits. I love how this post really went in depth with the topic of fashion, and explained how everyone, teenager or not, should wear clothes that make them look and feel amazing!

20 Inspiring Quotes to Boost Your Self Esteem

This is absolutely one of my favorite posts. I really enjoyed researching quotes by public figures, that many people look up to share their wisdom. I love to talk about self esteem and self love, since I feel like it is so lacking in society, especially in my generation (Generation Z). I think the quotes that I was lead to include hold a lot of truth and power in a nutshell.

5 Qualities that I Value in a True Friend

Real friends are rare these days, and when you have one or a few, it’s important that you cherish them. Although everyone is not a friend, I believe God’s Word to be true, which says, “but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24)

I hope you all liked me explaining which posts I hold dear to my heart, as well as my explanation of why. Feel free to go check out the links of each post (or the headings) if you haven’t read some of the other pages on my blog already. Thanks so much for stopping by!

Have a beautiful day, y’all! 💜

How to be a Good (or Better) Older Sibling

Hello, fellow teens! Have you ever heard of the term “copycat”? If not, a copycat is a person that copies another person’s actions, behavior, and words. If you are a big brother or sister, you probably know that this game is never-ending when you have a younger sibling. ✨

Believe me, I know from experience that having younger siblings can be a challenge, sometimes. They come in your room, they talk to you until they drop, and they might even take your clothes. However, the only reason why they do this is because they look up to you as a person and sibling.

It is for this reason that I wanted to give you guys some tips on How to Be a Good (or Better) Older Sibling. Besides, everyone deserves a little TLC once and a while, and I do not mean from the reality show network, I mean tender love and care! ✨

So, are you ready? Let’s get started!

  1. Have patience. ✨

You know, at certain times, this tip might be a little easier said than done. It can be a little irritating if your younger brother or sister is bothering you until wits end. However, it is also good to try your best to talk in a more calm voice. Yelling not only makes you upset, but it could also encourage your younger sibling to continue their behavior. Sometimes, the best thing is to take a long, deep breath!

2. When you need some alone-time, don’t be afraid to get it. ✨

Let’s be real, privacy is one of the main priorities of most teenagers. If your younger sibling seems to be a little more talkative then usual, then it’s okay to ask them to go into their room, your parent(s) or guardian(s) room, etc. Besides, if they don’t listen, you can always tell your guardian.

3. Spend time with them. ✨

Usually, even if they annoy you to your last nerve, it is extremely common for younger sisters and brothers to admire their older siblings. It’s very important to take some time everyday, and spend at least a little time that involves just you and your younger sibling. It not only will make them feel appreciated, but it also creates a stronger bond and might get you a few minutes of peace.

4. Be a good role model.

Whether you believe it or not, your younger sibling learns by watching your example. Never forget, that what you do is your way of teaching them what is right or wrong, even if you don’t say it to them. It’s kind of like how we view our parents. So please, be mindful of what you do, as your younger sibling(s) is watching!

5. Remember, you can and will make mistakes. ✨

We are all humans, not robots. Believe me, there will be times where you mess up and possibly say something that you shouldn’t say. And that’s okay. Everyone makes mistakes, now and then. If you ever do make a mistake, then just apologize to your sibling and do better in the future. Mistakes are just learning experiences or lessons.

Okay everyone! I really hope that you enjoyed those 5 Tips on How to be a Good (or Better) Older Sibling. Remember, our younger siblings might be on our backs, all of the time, but it is only because they love and look up to us! Never take that for granted!

Have a loving, wonderful, and kind day, beautiful people! ✨

3 Effects of Negative Peer Pressure

Hello again, amazing people! Princess Q’Zion is back for another amazing blog entry! So, calling all teenagers, I have a question for you: have you ever been in a situation where all of your friends were doing something, (it could be smoking, drinking, dating, skipping school, etc.), and you felt like you had to do it, too? ✨

If you read my post a few days ago, then you probably already know that this is called negative peer pressure. I gave you all some tips on how you can positively deal with negative peer pressure. But, I never told you the actual effects of it.

You might not know this, but according to a study, 90% of teens has reported of being a victim of peer pressure. This is exactly why I wanted to share with you guys the effects that negative peer pressure can effect a person.

So, are you ready?

Let’s begin!

  1. It can decrease a person’s self-esteem or confidence.

When a person feels forced or teased about something, it can make them feel bad about themselves, as they can begin to feel like they aren’t as good or worthy as those who are participating in the negative behavior. It can also cause them to feel as though they need validation or approval from others, therefore causing them to feel lesser about how they feel about themselves.

And, if the situation gets worse, this can actually escalate to medical conditions that relate to anxiety or depression. This is just one of the possible affects of negative peer pressure.

2. A person’s grades can lower of fluctuate.

As teenagers, a lot of us feel the need to be accepted by our peers. We have the want to fit-in, have friends, and be accepted by everybody else. Sometimes, in worse cases, this could even mean that acceptence becomes a priority over a person’s grades. If a teenager is pressured to skip school or classes, then their grades could easily turn for the worst.

This not only affects their academics, but, depending on what their skipping school to do, could ruin their future, as well.

3. The person being pressured may begin to engage in self harm.

If a person feels anxious about a situation, or like they don’t belong, then eventually, it could cause them to want to harm themselves. No matter how hard this truth is to face, a lot of teenagers have actually committed suicide as a result of peer pressure or bullying.

It is easy to think it’s funny when you are pressuring a person, but it’s not so laughable once you realize what it can do to a person.

Okay, everybody! I really hope that you learned from these 3 effects of negative peer pressure.

If you are going through this, please always remember this:

The person or people who are pressuring you are doing it because they are being pressured to do it, and/or they have low confidence or self-esteem. Also, never be afraid to ask for help. Your peers might say that you are a ‘snitch’, but standing up for yourself isn’t a bad thing. Just, make sure, that you never use violence to do so. We must remember not to fight back in violence, but fight back in love.

I hope you all have a wonderful, healthy, and happy day! See you next time, amazing people! ✨

8 Tips on Positively Parenting Teenagers

Hello there, beautiful teens and parents! I hear a lot of adults say that the teenage years are some of the toughest years of parenthood. Now, me being a teenager and not a parent, I can’t relate to this as well as an adult could. I can, however, give some tips from a teenager’s point-of-view. ✨

I hope that you are really open to what I have to say. I’m sure that if you take the time to read the list of tips that I’ve provided, then it will help you to relate to your teenager.

Alright. Is everyone ready? Let’s get into it!

Tip #1: Always be willing to listen.

As a teenager, I can tell you right now that it’s important that we feel heard. If a teenager wants to share their feelings about something, whether it be some conflict between them and their parents, or how they feel about their first heartbreak, sometimes the best thing that parents can do is listen to their child (as long as they are being respectful, of course.) Listening opens the doors of healthy communication between you and your teenager, therefore making them feel safe and heard.

Tip #2: Try not to yell at your teenager(s).

I know that if your child has just done something that disappointed you, it can be kind of difficult to refrain from raising your voice, even if it’s a little bit. However, it can make a teenager feel belittled when being yelled at. Even if they have done something wrong, it can cause anxiety, low self-esteem, and more issues in your children. Therefore, if you can, it’s best just to talk in a calm, but stern voice.

Tip #3: Make eating with your child or children a priority.

Whether you are a single parent or you have a partner who helps you with your kid(s), it’s important to take the time to eat with them. Giving your child or children an opportunity to share things with you (such as how their day has been, how’s life, etc.) will help them feel more comfortable with you. Therefore, they might come to you for advice or guidance more often.

Tip #4: Give them some leeway.

Although I’m not a parent myself, I know that it’s a natural instinct for parents to be protective over their children. However, if a teenager feels like they don’t have enough freedom, then it can sometimes give them the urge to rebel, which probably won’t turn out very well for the parent or the child. So, please, cut your child at least a little bit of slack. Besides, wanting to be around their friends every once and a while (especially if they have good friends) won’t hurt them.

Tip #5: Try to remember what it was like when you were a teenager.

Everyone was a teenager once. Therefore, when you’re teenager reaches a new milestone, remember how it felt when you were a teenager. Whether it was your want to socialize or the want to be more independent, try to identify with the different ways your child is changing. Trying to understand them can really help you and them in many healthy ways.

Tip #6: Set a positive example.

One thing stays the same during a person’s childhood: they are more likely to do what their parents are doing. You must understand that doing something in front of your child is the same as saying it’s ‘OK’, even if you have told them it’s wrong. If you curse, drink, smoke, or dress inappropriate in front of your child, and they do the same thing, then it really isn’t the best thing to get upset at them. If you want you’re child to behave in a certain way, then it’s important that you model that behavior to them.

Tip #7: Create rules, but make them reasonable.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to have rules and regulation for your child, teenager or not. I know that I have them, and, it’s not easy to admit, but, it’s for the better. It helps create structure in you and your child’s life. However, at the same time, there is no point in giving rules if your child cannot follow them. Structure is important, but just make sure that you don’t put more on your child than they can handle.

Tip #8: Give what you want to receive.

This tip is very similar to #6. If you want respect from your children, you also have to be willing to give them respect. Now, keep in mind that a child’s respect is different from that of a parent’s. Just by trying to listen and understand your child, you are giving them respect. You know, just like any relationship, the one between a parent and child needs mutual effort.

Alright, beautiful teens and parents! I hope you love these 8 Tips on Positively Parenting Teens.

Believe me, I know that, whether you’re a parent or a teenager, this point in life can be difficult. However, if you just use the right techniques, such as the tips listed above, then you and your parent or child can get through it together!

Have a wonderful, beautiful, and fruitful day, amazing human-beings! ✨

7 Positive Ways to Deal with Negative Peer Pressure

Hello again, my lovely viewers! I’m back today with another fantastic post! Okay. I have something that I wanted you to do. Raise your hand if you’ve ever been a victim of negative (and/or harmful) peer pressure. And if you haven’t, well…it’s up to you what you want to do. ✨

But, let’s be honest, I’m pretty sure at least 95.99% of people can remember a time where they have been pressured, whether the attempt was successful or not, into doing something that they really didn’t want to do, but did anyway, most likely to fit in.

Now, don’t feel bad if you have, because a lot of people have been through it, including me.

Now, since school will be starting soon, I thought that there couldn’t be a better time to discuss positive ways to handle and deal with negative peer pressure. I mean, we all have gone through it. Why not figure out good ways to handle it?

So, let’s get right into it!

Tip #1: Ask yourself if you really want to do what’s being requested of you.

Let’s just make up a scenario. You’re hanging out with some kids your age, and your “friend” asks you to smoke. Well, the best thing that you can do, before you answer, is ask yourself a question like, “Do I really want to do this?” If your answer is a ‘yes‘, then ask yourself, “Why do I want to do this?” If your answer is “Because I want to fit in,” or “Because I want my “friend(s)” to think that I’m cool,” then, I’ll answer the question for you right now. The answer is no.

Tip #2: Walk away/leave the situation.

If you’re not the type of person that likes confrontation, (which is completely understandable), then do the most simple thing that you could do in this situation. Leave. If you feel as though you might have a hard time saying ‘no‘, then instead of giving in to the negative pressure, just leave the situation. It might be hard, at first, but believe me, you’ll be glad you did.

Tip #3: Use a buddy system.

If you have a true friend(s) who is a positive role model and influence, who has the same stance as you on an issue, then work together to stand up for yourselves, and back each other up. I mean, if you don’t have to do it alone, why not let your bestie back you up?

Tip #4: Give yourself some love.

What’s the point of having friends if all they do is pressure you into things you don’t want to do? Remember that you are worthy of respect and kindness, and that, in the long run, it’s better to be your own, true friend, then have a whole bunch of fake friends who don’t have your best interests at heart.

Tip #5: Find positive role models and/or new friends.

Let’s get real: It’s always nice to have someone to confide in. Whether it be a new friend or a family member, remember to surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Those who have your best interests at heart will make you feel comfortable and appreciated. And that’s what you deserve.

Tip #6: Think about the consequences if you give in.

If you are tempted to give in to the pressure, or have already given in, think of the future consequences if you say ‘yes‘ or continue on the route you are on. Trust me, taking time to think about the road that you should take can help prevent a lot of trouble from taking place. I know. This can be hard. But you’ll be thrilled that you did it, looking back.

Tip #7: Don’t try to use negative peer pressure on others.

I mean, it’s kind of low to complain about getting peer pressured if you are doing it to someone else. Even if it’s subtle, try your best not to put negative pressure on other people. And, if you are doing so, try to apologize and make it right with the person that you’ve been pressuring. After all, it’s important that we love our neighbors as ourselves. (Matthew 22:39 NIV)

Alright, everyone! I hope you enjoyed those 7 Tips on How to Deal with Negative Peer Pressure, and that it will help you during this new year of school!

Comment down below other positive ways to deal with negative peer pressure, as well as your other thoughts on the issue.

You don’t have to take any disrespect, or insensitivity from any “friend” that you have. Just remember, do things, such as the ideas listed, to deal with negative peer pressure in a positive way. You can be serious and get your point across without being violent.

Have a wonderful, fabulous, and joyful day, beautiful people! ✨